How To Celebrate Valentines Day If You're Single & Just Wanna Have Fun

Because pizza and romcoms are better than any boyfriend I've ever had. 

To quote the amazing Queen Bey: all the single ladies (put your hands up)! Forget that whole ring thing and instead take a moment to wave your hands side-to-side. Feels good, doesn't it? I'm talking about the awesome moment when you realize you're all you've got this V-Day. No one to check in with, everyone to check out. 

You phenomenal queen this day is all about you. And on the days when it's all about you, there's no time to sit around and wallow about the love you're missing. Instead, if you're like me, you'll spend the day pampering yourself, indulging in foods you love and enjoying all that you can about life, while also counting down the hours until the Valentines Day candy goes on sale. Score!


Look, I'll be honest: the world doesn't need any more negative Nancy's. Instead of walking around screaming "f*** love," embrace your singledom and have fun!

If you're single and rolling solo instead of with the homies (that was a Clueless reference for all those who missed it), I've got a few simple ideas for how to spend the day celebrating. So get all dressed up or throw on your favorite silk pajamas/comfy sweater and do the following: 

Reflect on All The Great Things In Your Life

Just stop for a second and look around: look at your friends, your family, your career, your support network, hell look at yourself in the mirror. You have tons to be grateful for and lots of positive things to focus on today. Whip out a journal or download a gratitude app (my favorite is Grateful) and get to reflecting on the good. 

Upgrade your coffee order

Ditch your basic, morning cup of joe. Instead, spring for a fancy latte and grab that chocolate croissant you've been eying. It'll start your day (or afternoon) on a high note!

Make Yourself a fancy dinner

Because who doesn't like good food? You don't have to have a partner to eat well on Valentines Day. Whip yourself up something nice, or do like I plan to and order in. Note: this is your own personal version of fancy. I'm all for pizza or tacos or chicken wings from Buffalo Wild Wings, while you might prefer a steak and potatoes spread or pasta. It's all up to you.

Bake something sweet

Damn the calories! Today have yourself a cookie, some cake, a brownie, ice cream, fro-yo, or all four. One day of indulgence won't kill you. And if it does, at least you will have died happy. 

Get your groove on

Like I always say: life is too short not to dance in your bedroom mirror. Blast a song that makes you feel amazing and get to dancing. Just be sure your floor is clear. You don't want to slip on a bunch of shoes when you start to get into the chorus. Not that that's ever happened to me or anything. 


Pamper Yourself

Make today an at-home spa day or night! A face-mask, afternoon trip to the nail salon, a special massage courtesy of your removal shower head? Ah, yes!

Update your bucket list

Or create a vision board. This is more than likely what I'll be doing and I'm not ashamed to say that I'll be putting Michael B. Jordan's face front and center on it.  Don't judge! I'm manifesting my goals, that way I'm hopefully not single next Valentines Day. 

Binge Watch Your Favorite TV Show

Bonus points if it's something featuring a strong female lead(s) like Jane The Virgin, Pretty Little Liars, Living Single or Insecure!

Buy Yourself Something Nice

Normally you might feel guilty about online shopping, but today is Valentines Day and you're single dammit, which means you deserve something special. (On second thought, don't listen to me if you're struggling for money right now. Those shoes can wait, girl.)

Write yourself a love letter

You're a special kind of somebody and you deserve a little loving from your #1 fan: yourself! Bonus points if you handwrite it on fancy stationary. 

What are you planning on doing this Valentine's Day? Let me know in the comments!

7 of The Best Celeb Memoirs To Read

Before they were stars Tiffany Haddish (Girls Trip), Taraji P. Henson (Empire) and Issa Rae (Insecure) along with a host of other celebs were just people with big dreams and the drive to match.

I've always been curious about what it is really like to be a celeb: how they got to where they are today and honestly, just more about them as a person. And what's the best way to learn all of this? In my opinion, from the sources' mouths themselves! 


So many celebs have written books and memoirs all about how they rose to Hollywood fame and like the book lover I am, I've snagged them all. There's an invisible bubble surrounding actresses, writers, etc. sometimes that can make them feel so far away from us everyday folks, but when I pick up these books I instantly feel connected to the celebs. 

When reading I can identify with their struggles of not being enough in high school, as well with the questionable choices they made with men over the years. Most of all, I can relate to wanting something so bad and not always having people around you who understand your dream. Or that support it.

If you feel this way too and/or are just looking for your next great read, here are seven amazing celeb memoirs/essay books to curl up with now. 

1. The Last Black Unicorn, by Tiffany Haddish

“I think that’s the very first time I had an orgasm. I’m pretty sure I had one onstage. Then I didn’t know what it was. I just started trembling and freaking out and getting sweats and tingling. Man, I was so happy.”  ― Tiffany Haddish

If you thought Tiffany Haddish was hilarious as Dina in Girls Tripthen you'll love her book. It's all about her incredibly humble beginnings growing up in South Central Los Angeles, CA. Similar to how she works today, Tiffany survived growing up by making people laugh and when she did they let her copy their homework. Every personal essay I read left me laughing, crying,  feeling inspired by her hustle or a combination of all three. One of my favorite essays: her story about Roscoe. Trust you'll die when you read it.  

2. We're Going To Need More Wine, by Gabrielle union

"You were fly, dope, and amazing from birth,’ I would tell that girl now. ‘From the second you took your first breath, you were worthwhile and valid. And I'm sorry you had to wait so long to learn that for yourself.'” ― Gabrielle Union

Let me just start off by saying that Gabrielle Union has always been my best friend in my head. Ever since I saw her She's All That and Bring it On, I've been in awe of her down-to-earth personality, ageless skin, and undeniable talent. So when I learned that she was releasing a book I literally jumped up from my desk. And let me just tell you that it didn't disappoint! In a moving collection of thought-provoking essays infused with her unique wisdom and deep humor, my BFF shares stories about her childhood, power, race, her rise to fame and more. Here's more about why I loved it

3. The Mother of Black Hollywood, by Jenifer Lewis

“I’ve learned in life that what you give to others is what provides the most value to your life. There I was, a mess myself, yet I still had something to offer that would have an effect on another person’s world.” ― Jenifer Lewis

If you don't laugh every time Jenifer Lewis shows up on screen then you just don't have a sense of humor. The title for her book is completely fitting given she has literally played every single person in Hollywood's mother at some point or another. The Mother of Black Hollywood takes a deep dive into the personal and professional life of one of Tinsel Town's living legends, which includes a sex addiction, her bipolar disorder and 17-plus years of therapy to overcome it all. If you're looking for a no holds barred book that's incredibly real and inspiring, then this is the one for you. 

4.This Is Just My Face: Try not to stare, by Gabourey Sidibe

“Don’t let anyone else take away your joy. If they don’t want to be with you or around you, let them go. Pick up your shit and keep going. You came into the world by yourself, and the next person’s lungs don’t help you breathe.”  ― Gabourey Sidibe

Don't we all have that friend who's funny, unfiltered and incredibly full of confidence? If not, let me introduce you to Gabby, who can most definitely be that friend to you. With an incredible amount of relatability weaved in between her words, Gabby tells the story of her life growing up in New York, her first job as a phone sex “talker" and her unconventional rise to Hollywood fame in the 2009 critically-acclaimed movie Precious. 

5. Year of Yes: how To Dance It Out , Stand in the sun and be your own person, by Shonda Rhimes

“Dreams are lovely. But they are just dreams. Fleeting, ephemeral. Pretty. But dreams do not come true just because you dream them. It’s hard work that makes things happen. It’s hard work that creates change.” ― Shonda Rhimes

Confession: I pick up this book at least once every few months. Shonda is like a mentor in my head and this memoir/self-help book is a sneak peek into her brain. Like most introverts, Shonda used to say no to everything. Well, that is until her sister called her out on it and from there, the writer/producer made it her mission to say "yes" to everything for a year; yes to the things that scared her, required her to leave her house and step outside the comfort zone she'd created for herself. As someone who definitely likes keeping a low-key, solo, minimal social interaction routine, I can definitely relate. But if there's one thing Shonda taught me in this book it's that the people who make the greatest impact in the world don't just sit around and dream, they do. 

6. Around The Way Girl, by Taraji p. henson

"No matter how often you fall from grace, what matters most is how many times you get up.” ― Taraji P. Henson

Hands down, Taraji P. Henson may just be one of the most versatile actresses around. Literally, every role she takes brings something new to the table, although in each and every one she brings the same Taraji spirit and intensity. That same thunder comes to light in her memoir all about her journey from DC to Howard University to Hollywood, while also sharing the joy of living her own personal truth. And trust, the title says it all: this book is so authentic, Taraji will feel like a homegirl you've known all your life. 

7. The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl, by Issa Rae

“It all made sense: my shyness, all the times I was dismissed for not being “black enough,” my desire to reframe the images of black film and television, which I started to do when I created a series in college called Dorm Diaries, my inability to dance—these were all symptoms of my Awkward Blackness.” ― Issa Rae

Out of the books on this list, this was the first one I picked up and is arguably my favorite. When I found it in 2015, I'll be entirely honest: I had no clue who Issa Rae was or what Awkward Black Girl was. But let me tell you, once I got done reading this book, I watched it all. Black women have a tendency to always appear flawless, strong, confident and when it comes to me, this couldn't be further from the truth. I'm awkward as hell and after discovering this book, I realized that I'm not the only one. In this New York Times Bestseller, everyone's fave humorously discusses the daily struggle of being an introvert: from the perils of eating out alone to navigating the workplace to public displays of affection and learning to accept yourself throughout it all. Check it out, you might even discover that there's a little awkwardness in all of us. 

Have you read any of these memoirs or plan to? Let me hear in the comments!

7 Motivating Mugs Every Coffee Lover Needs

Start your day with a latte and a little boost of happiness!


As someone who lives in a super cold city, drinks a lot of coffee — like A LOT — and that lives with a roommate obsessed with drinking tea every morning, it's no surprise that I own a ton of mugs. Some are punny, a few say "I LOVE NY," but the majority of them are ultra motivational. And I absolutely love them and am constantly adding more to my collection. 

Why mugs? I'm really big on buying products that give me a dose of inspiration each time I use them and there are plenty of mugs that fit the bill. Plus t they're useful and perfect for creating a dope #MondayMotivation Instagram photo. Here are seven ultra motivating mugs that I would recommend any coffee/tea/hot chocolate lover add to their arsenal. Best of all, they're all under $20! (Note the photos are shown in order with the list)

1. Morning Mantra,

As you sip get ready for a day filled with more dreaming, more dancing, more creating and overall just more good vibes. 

2. Never Stop Growing,

You live and you learn, no shame in that. And this mug is dedicated to the inevitable glow up. Get ready to shine! 

3. Hashtag Sleigh,

Yes it's true: you did wake up like this. This mug will encourage you to channel your inner Queen Bey and you the rest..

4. Take Delight in the Rain,

Today's forecast? Cloudy with a chance of dancing in the rain!

5. Hello, Gorgeous,

For those mornings when it's a struggle to apply eyeliner without crying. Girl, you don't need it! 

6. You're The Best,

Phenomenal woman? That's me!

7. Babes Who Get Shit Done,

That's you! Well, after you have your morning coffee. 

Don't you love motivational mugs? Let me know where you get your faves! I'm always on the hunt for more!